The Flower in You

I was having a discussion today with a very dear friend that I thought was a topic worthy of this page:

She had the idea that it is a task, and not an easy thing to feel good about yourself, least of all to love herself:

Feeling good about who you are is actually a lot easier than most people think. Folks have the idea that they need to do something very special to make it happen. But the truth is the exact opposite. There is really nothing to do because love is not a doing, it is a being. When you befriend yourself, you become a friend to others, and the world at large. You are a friend with nature, the moon, and the stars! And the more you meet them in love, the more you generate love in your own being. And the more you bring those higher feelings to your self, and to your heart, the better you and your heart will feel about you. That’s how it works. It is not magic. It just has to do with what you bring to existence, because that is what it will return to you. So it is not that it’s not easy, it’s that people are simply unaware. In other words, would I be thinking correctly to expect you to smile at me if I am frowning at you? Of course not, I must also smile at you! Then there is a meeting between us. We understand each other!

The more you are loving to others, the more that love flowers in you. And then it just becomes a part of your every day fragrance. You become the very beauty that you shower onto others, so it is not only a gift for them, it is also a gift to you. Love is not an isolation. It is a movement, something that returns to you. That’s why it feels so so good to love somebody. It is not only that you are enjoying how it feels to love, or be loved; it is the thrill of being in love with the world of love!

Sometimes people miss that part. They think that love is only a person to person thing. But this is incorrect. True love is a global, universal thing. It is something that reaches to every single person, and every great or little thing. That’s why I cannot only love my wife, my parents, family and friends, but not also love you. I must love you too. If I want to love anybody then I must love everybody. I am not able to choose who to love. I can only choose if I want to love. Do you see? People are very distorted about this. They have the idea that love is a singular thing. But nothing could be further from the truth. Love is a Godliness. It has no height or depth. There are no limits to it! Because love is not a lightbulb, where you can simply turn it on and off as you deem fit, depending on whom you are with, no. It doesn’t work that way. Love is either on all of the time, or it is off all of the time. dwp

One thought on “The Flower in You

  1. Robert Schenck

    Beloved Doug,

    Your words today are extraordinary! Extraordinary in poetry, clarity, and truth. Love is lost early in the process of what is called by the psychologists “socialization.” Socialization is the process where words and their meaning are learned by the new born; once mind is established it becomes the dominant force in the psyche; mind knows nothing of love; mind knows only right and wrong, do this don’t do that; mind takes one away from awareness of feelings; and loving one’s self is a feeling not a thought; and once one is unaware of feeling love for one’s self one is incapable of loving others.

    Your brilliant poem/essay points other’s in the right direction to help them to reconnect with the truth that they love themselves; once self love is remembered love of others happens naturally. Your beautiful words that love is either all there or all not there is profoundly true.

    Thanks for this beautiful poem/essay.

    Love, Bob

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