Embodiment of Beauty

A friend of mine complained that she wasn’t beautiful enough. So I said, who told you that? She said, “nobody…I know it because men only look at my body.” So I said, men do that because women have very special bodies; their behavior is not meant to suggest that she herself isn’t also beautiful. She looked at me and said “Tell me about my beauty, Doug. Tell me why you think I’m beautiful.” Upon hearing my reply, she asks: Who told you that? I said, you did. I see what I am being shown. If all I can see is a body, then that’s what’s in front of me, which is not to say that it is all that’s there. But when a person wants to be seen as a more substantive being, there is a way to achieve this. Beauty, much like a body, or anything else about a person, is a communication. And whatever it is communicating is what will be known, and understood by others. To know something is to taste it. If a choice is made to be invisible, it cannot be criticized when others are unable to see you. If it is not possible to be seen, it is not possible to be known. And if you cannot be known, you cannot be loved. So it is not a question of how beautiful one is, but rather a matter of how willing one is to allow others to see, and experience how special your beauty is.  dwp